a problematic relationship is very difficult for anyone and teens
unfortunately do not always share their thoughts and experiences
with their parents. Watch for subtle signs that you’re your
child may be worried or upset. Recognize that abuse occurs along
a continuum, beginning with verbal insults, disrespect and threats,
escalating to physical behaviour and sometimes accelerating to
the use of knives, guns or other weapons. Check out some Warning
Despite how scary it is
when you think (or know) that your child is in danger, resist
to criticize or lecture.
Listen with your ears, eyes and heart. Criticism of either the
victim or abuser will only lead to defensiveness, anger and mistrust.
Your goal is to keep the door to communication and support open.
Concentrate on your child’s strengths and empower them
to develop their own boundaries. Remember sometimes change takes
a long time but your support and love, even when they make less
than optimum choices, is what will eventually guide them to safe
and healthy choices.
More information in About Abuse/Support Tips
Educate yourself about abuse. There are
many community organizations that can offer both information
and support to you. www.parentsinfo.sympatico.ca 1-888-603-9100 is
an excellent place to begin.
Lots of other organizations, publications
websites are listed in our Resources section.
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